I've found that "coming out" as anything controversial or against what consensus reality would label as "normal" is pretty much the same across the board. (this is coming from a Thelemic Pagan Polyamorous Lesbian, so trust me on this.) There will always be people who get their feathers all ruffled just because someone is doing things differently than they choose to. The thing to remember is ultimately these people don't matter. What matters is that you are being your honest authentic self, the person God/dess created you to be. If you do this you will find that your life opens up, and that you find the people who are your real family. These are the people who will love you for who you really are. They are out there waiting. Your life is out there waiting for you to grab it and own it!
I want to affirm that this isn't just about coming out as GLBTQ. This can be about coming out as Pagan, Poly, or someone who dislikes cheese (talk about weird!)
I understand that there are situations where it's not okay to be out. This is about being honest with yourself first. Be out to only your cat if that's what you need right now.
This isn't a suggestion to beat people over the head with your queerness, whatever that looks like. Be comfortable in your own skin, and when the situation arises, speak your truth.
Just be yourself. If you can't do it for you, do it for me.
I want to affirm that this isn't just about coming out as GLBTQ. This can be about coming out as Pagan, Poly, or someone who dislikes cheese (talk about weird!)
ReplyDeleteI understand that there are situations where it's not okay to be out. This is about being honest with yourself first. Be out to only your cat if that's what you need right now.
This isn't a suggestion to beat people over the head with your queerness, whatever that looks like. Be comfortable in your own skin, and when the situation arises, speak your truth.
Just be yourself. If you can't do it for you, do it for me.